Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Help

Help. One of the things that I am just now willing and still learning to accept and ask for. I'm very hesitant to ask for help because I think it makes me look weak and because some people like to throw things in your face.
I would first like to say that people that really care about you and your future wouldn't bring up help that they have given you.
Secondly, asking for help can make you stronger than you could ever imagine.
As a teen mother I feel that I have to show the world how great of a mother I am and can be. This is what provided my drive for a long time. However, some where down the line I realized: "Who cares what other people think about me, as a mother or at all." The only people I have to please are my child and myself. I say this because so long as I know these two things are taken care of my family will be pleased with me and acknowledge the things I have accomplished.
Being that I am a teen mom I never wanted to ask for help or accept it because I wanted to say I did "it" with no ones help, but then I realized even grown women with degrees and careers ask for help, so why shouldn't I? One thing to remember is that the world will talk about teenage moms and how horrible they are from now until forever. Who cares? Don't let the stares of unbelievably rude comments get you down. Those people don't know you, where you come from and most importantly where you are going.
With out help I wouldn't be living in NYC for free, not having to worry about a job, spending time with the most important person in my life, my daughter, and getting ready to attend one of the best business schools in the country. With out help my daughter would have went with out diapers and food sometimes. When you think about it help is the only way anyone gets to where they want to be in life.
Help is what is going to take your and your child's/ children life to the next level so you don't have to struggle and neither do they.
Life is easier when you open yourself up to help. Help can be asking for money/things, time or a friend to just talk to and let know how you feel. If you're with someone that you trust and even if they are the sole bread winner of the family, ask them for help. Help with watching the kid(s) so you can do something for and/ or by yourself for a while, because being a mom is a tiring job.
You can have someone watch your child while you attend a class or a simple trip to the grocery store.
Help is something we can all give and receive, if you're open to it.
So try it. Like I said I'm new at this new help thing, but receiving help feels great and knowing that you can help others is even better.

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