Tuesday, January 31, 2012

11 Months of Awesome

I don't believe in New Year Resolutions, I feel that they are a waste of time and when we don't reach them we use our "failure" to punish ourselves in, yet again, another way.
I believe that 30 day/ month goals are better, you feel the sense of self satisfaction even sooner and then you feel like you can take on your next goal.

So instead of resolutions and in an effort to revive the spirit of my other blog http://myfirstyearnyc.blogspot.com/, where I tried doing something for the FIRST TIME EVERYDAY! (Personally I think I got pretty far being that I had NO money, was new to the city, started school, after a one year break, and Leilani started school.)

Anyhow, for the next 11 Months I invite all of you to embark with me on the 11 Months of Awesome Challenge... although it's not really a challenge... lol. Just us trying new things and expanding our horizons a bit more.

Each month, starting in February, I will pick a theme and go with it. Along with the theme of the month I will have a GIVEAWAY every month that goes along with our theme!

A few examples of a theme might be:
New Music in April- where I will be on the prowl to diversify my musical library. The giveaway for that month might be a iTunes gift card. 
Fresh Fruit in June- where I would pick a new fruit I have never tried each week or bi-weekly and try eating it in new and exciting ways. The giveaway for that month might be a fruit cook book or something along those line. 

One of the things I truly feel life is about is trying new things, foods and experiences. I want to take you all along on my months of awesomeness and reward you all for trying with me as well!

Stay tuned for the February Theme of the Month!!! 

Monday, January 30, 2012

First Day of Class

Today was the first day of my second semester of college at Baruch.  I'm basically in school all day, taking four courses.

Last night, while I was in bed, I realized one important thing, I had no school supplies. Lol. Luckily I had an old notebook that still had paper in it and took that with me.

For taking four courses in one day it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, however, today was only the first day.

Anyhow, I realize I'm rambling so here is basically what my day was like today.

  1. I forgot my lunch and ended up buying some extremely greasy food which I regret.
  2. I realize I will be doing A LOT of reading this semester. I have to read 8 plays in my theater class, 4 weekly readings in one of my major courses and 2-4 weekly readings in another one of my major courses.
  3. I want to join the Undergrad Student Government.
  4. I should really go to the IT department and have them fix the email on my phone.

Thank goodness my job isn't too demanding so I can study while at work.

I know not too interesting and much too thin for the usual post I do but I'm on the subway between two grown men in puffy jackets and trying not to fall asleep. :)

Have a good day. Thank you for reading.

Saturday, January 28, 2012

The Pregnancy Project.

Once upon a time there was a girl. Her mother was pregnant at 14 and had her first child at 15, all of her siblings where teen parents and they all told her "this" was going to be your fate.

This girl was a straight A student, then she told her classmates she was pregnant. They were shocked but then six months later they were even more shocked when they realized she faked her pregnancy for a social experiment.

This is a true story and the short summation of an upcoming Lifetime Movie.
Gaby Rodriguez faked her pregnancy, kept it a secret from EVERYONE even her mother and learned first hand for six months what it was like to go from "normal" teenager to pregnant teen.

This is one of the RARE cases that I wish I had a television. I would love to watch this film and see how realistic it is and see if it's surprisingly more "realistic" than some Teen Mom shows.
To learn more about the film click here

Friday, January 27, 2012

Amaya Papaya Giveaway!

I am happy to announce that we are doing our FIRST GIVE AWAY!
Remember Amaya Papaya and how they helped with The Orlando Teen Mom Event, well we have partnered up to offer you all something MORE!

Amaya Papaya is an indoor playground located in Casselbery, Florida.

Yolanda Tyler created Amaya Papaya after having her daughter, Amaya. As a new mother Ms. Tyler wanted to be able to spend as much time as possible with her daughter but continue working. After thinking about all of the different options Ms. Tyler came up with the idea to create a space where parents and children can come and enjoy each others company.

Amaya Papaya also offers numerous classes, events and hosts birthday parties.
We all know that Florida's weather can be extreme and there are days when you want to go outside and play with you little one but the 100 degree weather, humidity and chances of heavy rain before 12pm stop this from happening. Thankfully Amaya Papaya is here to enjoy!

Amaya Papaya and I have teamed up to giveaway 3 free admission cards!

To enter the giveaway you only have to do 3 things!

  1. Subscribe to Teen Mom NYC.com
  2. Update your Facebook status with your favorite post and tag me OR Tweet your favorite post and tag me in it. 
  3. Lastly, leave your contact information be it  Facebook, Twiter or Email in the comment box below. 
The Last Day to Enter is February 6th 2012 at 7pm 

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Too Much Sugar at School

When Leilani was first promoted to the 1st grade I noticed that the teacher liked to give/ reward the children with candy, I let it slide for the first week.

However, when the next week started out with her having candy at dismissal time I pulled the teacher aside and informed her that I didn't like Leilani eating copious amounts of sweets. She reassured me that it was because of the holiday season and that it would stop afterwards.

Yesterday when I picked Leilani up from school she had a PIXIE STICK?!! Um... if thats not PURE SUGAR I don't know what is! Then TODAY! I pick her up and I see that she didn't eat all of her lunch, only the caramel rice cake, and she had a goodie bag! Apparently it was one of her fellow classmates birthday so the girls parent's bought in goodie bags for the whole class. FINE, whatever, It's a party I can let it slide.

However!!!When we got home Leilani told me that she had Oreo mud pie worm pie. You know. The one with crushed Oreos, chocolate pudding and gummy worms. I love Oreo Mud Pie as much as the next guy but seriously?! Not to mention she had a pink cupcake as part of the girls birthday party!

Then when we were talking she told me that she told the teacher that she was "Giving them too much sugar" to which the teacher replied, No I'm not.

Now I'm NOT throwing the teacher under the bus and saying she is the only one at fault.
I've told Leilani to not eat so many sweets when they are offered but she's a five year old kid! Then there is the option to bring in treats for Leilani personally but then the other kids would be "left-out."

I don't want to be "that parent" however, I don't want my child eating so much frigging SUGAR!
I'm going to have to talk to the teacher again.

Not to mention they are probably washing all this sugar down with purple, orange or red sugar water!

Okay, I'm done.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012


Remember my previous post about Congress wanting UN-healthy kids well I am ECSTATIC to announce that this morning the USDA changed and heightened the standards of school lunches!


Now lunches need to be between 550-650 calories, the correct amount that each meal a child should  consume in one meal.
There will also be LESS SALT and more greens on each child's tray in lunch rooms across America!
This news makes me extremely happy because just this morning Leilani told me that she had two options for lunch yesterday:
Fries and ketchup or peanut butter and jelly... I mean... REALLY?
She choose peanut butter and jelly.

If you want to get a look at the new menu click here notice that there is MORE FOOD on the after tray then the before.

How the new changes you ask? None other than the First Lady herself! Thank you Mrs. Obama!! (click the above link to read the full article on NPR.com)

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

What's Going to Happen

While on vacation I took Leilani over to a friends house for a play date. The family had a new addition to the house since that last time we went. A GUM BALL MACHINE with no top.

As you all may or may not know, I don't do sweets and or candy. Since candy and sweets have absolutely NO nutritional value why would I let her eat them?

Anyhow, after having two gum balls and playing for HOURS she came back into the living, where I was which also happened to be the room where the gum ball machine was. 
She asked if she could have another gum ball and I said no.
Then she began acting like she was "sneaking" towards the machine to get a gum ball. I laughed and told her no. To which she pleaded PLUHEEZ. No I said. Then she asked the million dollar question 

"What's going to happen?" 
"What's going to happen if I just take one?"

For some reason I was stuck... what would happen? I had a few options I could threaten her with empty threats (don't look at me like that, we've all done it before!), ignore her and tell her to go away or tell her the honest truth:

"Nothings going to happen. It just means that you didn't listen to me and that would hurt my feelings. When you don't listen to me that means you don't care." 

Call me dramatic but thats exactly what I said. You know what she did. She looked at me. Smiled and went to go play with her friends with OUT a gum ball. 

I was shocked. 

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Joscelyn Speaking at the First Orlando Teen Mom Event

Joscelyn Ramos- Campbell, creator of Mami Innovative Media.com/ and Mami of Multiples.com/speaking about her experiences as a Teen Mom, offering helpful tips and motivation!

UNFORTUNATELY the video was cut off! Nonetheless Joscelyn did a wonderful job and is a motivation to anyone anywhere especially Teen Moms

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Slut Shaming


Friday, January 20, 2012

Those "princesses" are going DOWN!

It's no surprise that I hate the Disney Princesses , you may have read my first rant about Disney's Tangled. Some people think I'm crazy and others agree with me completely.

Today, while I was on the subway on the way to work, I love saying that, I saw a headline in a local free newspaper that read : "Raising a daughter in the age of the princess." I really wanted to read the article but someone else was reading that paper and I got off before I could ask to see the piece.
When I got off the subway by LUCK there was a stand with the paper that the passenger was reading on the train. I grabbed a paper and was off to work. After I got off I pulled the paper from my bag and was delighted to find that someone agrees with me so much, and many other mothers,  that they actually wrote a book about the "princess effect."
Dr, Jen Hartstein Psyd wrote “Princess Recovery: A How-To Guide to Raising Strong, Empowered Girls Who Can Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters”. Obviously a book with a HUGE title. lol

The article explains how girls are drilled from an early age, 2 and up, that being a "princess" and not using their intelligence is desirable and essential to attract a handsome man, that will save them of course.

Some parents go as far as discouraging their daughters from explore "un-girly" things like... oh I don't know... MATH and SCIENCE!

Dr. Hartstein gives advice on how to offset the "princess effect" by first and foremost: watching what your allowing your kids to watch.

After peeking inside the book on Amazon I was SHOCKED, APPALLED and SAD to see that girls as young as three suffer from weight insecurities and that the number of eating disorders in children under the age of 12 has risen 119% over the last few years.
Still think the Disney Princesses are harmless, fun loving, role models for young girls?

I haven't read Dr. Hartstein's book but hope to buy it when I get the money to be able to.
It's refreshing to know that licensed medical health professionals are aware of this princess crap and helping parents off set it.

If you'd like to read the article here it is.
If you'd like to see or get a copy of the book here is the link to Amazon.

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Ylla Speaking at the Orlando Teen Mom Event

The First Annual Orlando Teen Mom event had two key note speakers, whom were both Teen Moms. Below is Ylla, of ForeverFatGirl.blogspot.com, speaking about her experiences as a Teen Mom, famous women who were Teen Moms, famous children who were born to Teen and and giving us all some inspiration.

Please excuse my HORRIBLE video recording and horrible laugh with NO SOUND. lol 

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

The Day of the Event!

This post is part of a series of post about the First Annual Orlando Teen Mom event. You can read the previous post here, here and here

Here it was the day of the event! I couldn't believe it! I was so anxious and surprised that I wasn't a nervous wreck.

I rolled out of bed cleared my throat and realized... I HAD NO VOICE! Yeah... you read that right NO VOICE. The day of my event, the day of all days where I really did need to talk and I had no voice. So what did I do? Nothing. I went back to WalMart- UGH and whispered my way around the store asking where certain things were.
Yup just like that. ^

I got home and was feeling awfully sick and when my family realized I had no voice they flipped out. I gargled salt water, vinegar, drunk hot lemon with honey, tea, basically ANYTHING you could think of. Finally I went to me nephews room put a scarf over my head, laid down and fell asleep.

After the wonderful nap, drool and all, I took a shower and realized I had a voice!!! Not a very big one but a had a VOICE!! The show could go on!

I picked up the food from Sweet Tomatoes and was off to the BETA Center to start setting up.

Upon arrival I met with Mrs. Matos and got to meet her lovely family.

My sister and I decorated, I ran around like a crazy person for a little bit, then Ylla, Joscelyn, Tani and Tracy, another friend of Ylla's, arrived. Tracy and Yulisa had a bunch of donations for the girls and families at the BETA Center!

The night was off starting off on a great note!

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Last Minute Things

Read the two previous post about the process of planning the event here and here.

I decided I wanted to put together a goodie bag for all of the girls that attend the event. Why, because we're Teen Moms and we're awesome! :)

After going to the place I loath the most, WalMart, and getting basic things like plates and stuff I realized that I had absolutely NO decorations for the venue and no money left.... Again, I didn't stress, which I'm surprisingly getting pretty good at, I knew it would work itself out.

While my sisters helped me pack the goodie bags with coupons, giveaways from Nemours Children's Hospital, on behalf of Yusila Ramirez. Wonderful trial packs and starter kits from Rephresh, on behalf of Kristin Bryan and more giveaways and information from Planned Parenthood of Central Florida, on behalf of Lisa Murano. I had to take a step back and realize all of the support from Central Florida's community.

The next morning, and the day before the event, I was on Facebook chat with my sister and telling her how the planning for the event was going. I told her that everything was going GREAT and all that was left to get was the decorations... but I had no way of buying them... Lol and that I wasn't worried because "it will work itself out"... lol. She replied that I was crazy and that she would love to give me the money I needed to help out.

Again back to the help thing, I didn't want to take her money. Call me crazy but when I get help from my family I feel like I'm using them. I didn't want to take the money but after her telling me to get over my crap, she didn't say it like that, and me getting over my crap I accepted.

In retrospect, while I was going through all of the motions to plan the event I didn't fully realize how amazing the amount of support was and now, literally right now, while typing this I am blown away.

The power of ASKING is AMAZING! I know that often times as human beings, mothers and Teen Moms we don't want to ask for help because of whatever irrational reason. However, when you let go and start asking for help so many wonderful and amazing things happen.

Monday, January 16, 2012

Food and Small Businesses

This is the follow up post the this one.

After finding two great speakers I was on the quest to find small businesses to introduce the Teen Moms to and vis versa.

Small businesses are amazing! These people have the courage to put their dreams into reality and hope for the best, you can't not commend that!

After searching online I found Amaya Papaya and Escape 2 Create.

I called both businesses and had the pleasure of meeting both businesses owners, Yolando at Amaya Papaya and Julie at Escape 2 Create. After explaining to them the purpose of the event they were instantly on board!

They both provided coupons for the girls to take their families to their businesses and enjoy themselves!

At this point I was so overjoyed and humbled by the outpouring amount of support and help from all of these people, businesses and organizations! It really bought something out of me that I had been working on all year:
Asking for Help. 

I am  was not someone that asked for help, AT ALL, but then I got over my shit and started asking. I still have problems asking for help but while calling around and sending emails to prospective businesses and organizations I realized that asking for help is a process, you can't make a character change over night.

The next major hurdle was getting food for the event. After calling and emailing several small businesses I   was at the end of my calling list and starting to stress. I decided to pull myself away from all the planning and go get my eyebrows done. While I was at the spa getting my browns done my friend and eyebrow technician referred me to Sweet Tomatoes . Lo' and behold I called I asked and I received!

I literally DANCED in the middle of the barber shop (I was getting my hair cut when I got the confirmation call) out of joy!

Here I was planning this GREAT event and had not hit ONE problem in the process, I could not believe it! The next thing there was to do was make goodie bags and enjoy the event!

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Finding Guest Speakers

On January 7th, at the BETA Center in Orlando, Florida, Teen Mom NYC had it's first Annual Orlando Teen Mom Event. 

My main goals for the event was for Teen Moms of ALL AGES to meet, talk and get to know one another. 

As a Teen Mom it's hard to find other mothers whom became mothers in their teenage years to look up to.
I know I have a head full of dreams, goals and ambition and even though I feel I have done a pretty good job at keeping my head on straight I still feel discouraged or extremely worried( I am a worrier) about "making it." 

Initially the event started as a way for me to see all my teen mom friends in Florida at once. That way I wouldn't be driving all over the place and we could all meet up, meet some other Orlando Teen Moms and just catch up. However, as I thought about the meeting I began to think that I needed to do something more, something BIG and above else something AMAZING! That is exactly what the event turned out to be!

The first thing I did was start researching online to find resources that are available to Teen Moms in the Orlando area. Not only did I want the event to be a place where Teen Moms from all over Central Florida could meet one another I also wanted it to offer the attendees useful resources that are right in their neighborhood.

I found The BETA Center and was blown away. After some emailing and phone calls I met with Xiamora Matos. Mrs. Matos took me through a tour of the location and after talking a bit more she informed me that the BETA Center could help me with the event by providing a venue to have the event!! I was ecstatic and over the moon! I couldn't believe it. 

Next I started looking for guest speakers. I wanted two and I wanted the two guest speakers to be women who became mothers in their teen years. After some searching online and reading Ylla's hilarious blog post about: her, a towel and a RAT, I knew I had to get her for the event. 
After landing in Florida we met at, as cliché would have it, a Starbucks and talked for a little bit. We talked about our experiences as Teen Moms, she gave me a lot of hints and tips for the event and it was agreed that she would be a speaker at the event! 

While looking for another speaker I emailed an Orlando based mom blogger, Modern Mami, and she helped connect me with Joscelyn, the creator of Mami Innovative Media.com and Mami of Multiples.com

Again, after some emailing and phone calls, we met at Cafe Murano and, much like Ylla, hit it off right away. We eat, laughed, talked about the event, she gave me tips and just like that I had my second guest speaker for the event! 

One very important thing I wanted for the event was a make up artist and hair stylist to give a demo on how to do quick, budget conscious, PROFESSIONAL make-up and hair styles.

I asked Ylla if she knew of anyone that could do this and she told me she had a great friend named Tania that could and the best part was Tania became a mother in her teenage years too!
After talking to Tania over the phone we agreed that the demo would include a model for hair and make up and we would just talk through out the process and the girls could ask any questions they wanted.

Here I had THREE amazing, happy and successful women who had a child in their teen years to speak at the event!! So far I had a venue, two guest speakers and a make up artist, whom is also a hair stylist! From here I knew the rest would be a piece of cake!