Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Wait Aprils Almost Over!?!

April has been the best month for me this year, so far. As I was looking back at my year of blogging and my biggest accomplishments in that year I realized that I never stated this month's theme as part of the 11 months of awesomeness!

The theme that has eveloved this month for me is bringing my goals- professional, academic and perosnal- to life.

I've been doing this by simply putting myself out there more.

I have emailed a few bloggers that I look up to and asked them for advice, I've met some amazing women in business and equally amazing YOUNG mothers in business, went on several important interviews and meetings that helpe me develop my ideas better, spoken to friends and family about some ideas that I have had but was to timid to share. I have also met some wonderful young mom bloggers and some of my readers! Over all I've been working on living the saying: you create the life you want!

Along with all of these wonderful things I gave my resume a much needed facelift. A little while ago I began a resume writing section but never finished it- this is on my 'To-Do' list.

I apologize and realize that this post is more like a ramble than anything else. What I am trying to say is if there is an idea or thing you have been wanting to do but left it off for 'when there is time' guess what there is never 'just going to be time.' You need to make time and complete the thing you've been wanting to. So often we feel we need to wait for time but fail to realize time doesn't wait for us.
Enough cliches and rambling, bottom line: get out there, get your hands dirty, send emails, make calls and do what YOU want to do.

Thank you for reading!

Blog Accomplishments.

I hope to bring this symbolism into fruition! 
The passing of my one year blogiversary has me looking back at the last year of my life personally, professionally and blog wise.

A year ago I had no job, no friends and was a bigger emotional mess then I am today, all things that are, now, very different.

I was a nobody with a blog about Teen Moms and shouting into the dark that NOT ALL TEEN MOMS ARE THE SAME!

Before reaching my one year blogiversary I reached 10,000+ views, was mentioned in the New York Daily News, put together an event for Teen Moms in Orlando, have met amazing previous, present and future teen moms, met the Teen Mom 2 cast and learned about helpful places for teen moms around the city and US!

I've realized that my blog has helped me gain confidence, learn about myself, more than I ever imagined, and has taught me to take risk. Although I come across very loud and outspoken the truth is the last year I spent in Florida really shook my confidence and had me questioning a lot of things I thought I was certain about in life.

Another thing my blog has been is kind of a timeline diary. It has given me the chance to look back and see how far Leilani and I have come.

Leilani started school, after the shitstorm of trying to find one and get her in, and then she had an early promotion to the first grade and took the gifted and talented test. Although she scored a 87 and needed a 90 to get into the program, life already has different things in the works for her education :)

All in all i'm very Excited! Happy! Blown-away! and proud of how much has been accomplished in such a short amount of time and will continue to work just as hard and even harder to keep bringing you all more wonderful content!

Thank you for reading!!! WITH OUT YOU, this blog is NOTHING! :)

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Book Review- Princess Recovery

I few months ago I did a post about Dr. Jen Hartsteins book, “Princess Recovery: A How-To Guide to Raising Strong, Empowered Girls Who Can Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters”.

I was shocked that Dr. Hartstein read and answered my post! I couldn't believe it. Then she did something very kind and sent me a free autographed copy of her book!

Upon receiving the book I immediately began reading. However, my required readings in my courses delayed how much I was really able to read. I began reading the book in spurts and in between my American Politic Thought text and the text from other classes.

Then last week I finally finished.

When I received the book I realized two things, it flows like a narrative, with each chapter devoted to a theme, but can also be used like an encyclopedia of sorts, by allowing you to turn to the "lesson" you need, read it, gets tips, tailored by age group, and continue on with your day. The other thing I noticed is, its very pink!

I read the book cover to cover and was very humbled to learn that some of the things I was doing when it came to Leilani and princesses was wrong.
Dr. Hartstein not only addresses issues or problems that we as parents don't realize we are doing or perpetuating, she goes deeper to help you question if and why you may be exhibiting the very same behaviors you do not want your child to have. Then she provides you tips, examples and ways to reduce these behaviors in yourself which in turn means helping out our daughters. The book identifies several trouble spots that one may encounter when raising a child, addresses them and provides solutions and tips on how to deal with them.

Through the chapters Dr. Hartsein provides you with the tools to take your daughter from being the dainty little princess to the capable heroin that she is.

To me, the underlined theme in the book is something I truly agree with, be the human you want your child to grow-up and be.

One 'lesson' that stood out to me the most was helping your little girl realize that princesses are fiction. Sounds simple right? However, as adults we sometimes forget to look at life through a child's eyes, although we know fairy tales and princesses are fictitious our children may not.

Simple realizations such as this and several other will come to you as you read Dr. Hartstein's book.

Another very helpful thing the book has to offer is a list of books that show princesses in a whole new light. As a the capable heroin! These books can sometimes be hard to find but with the list right in the back of the book you and your daughter can begin the process to go from princess to heroin.

The one drawback I see to the book is it is solely targeted to girls while the lessons can be used for boys and girls!
That being said if you have a little boy you can still read the book, learn from it and implement the lessons in your everyday life.

Overall, I give the book a 5/5! Great read worth, not only, your time but your families time as well!

You can find Dr. Jennifer Hartstein online on her website- http://www.drjen.com/
Twitter - @drjenonline
And her book on Amazon 

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Top Most and Least Read

In honor of my ONE YEAR blogiversary  I was looking back at some of my post and decided to compile a list of the most and least read post as well as my personal favorite post in the last year.

Least Read Post:

  1. Earthday Can Help Your House
  2. Rugrats!
  3. College Orientation 
  4. WOW! What an Insightful Day 
  5. Recycling

Most Read Post:

  1. Meet Diamond- Also the most read and in my personal opinion most impactful interview
  2. Gray or Stars 
  3. Why I Hate Disney Princesses
  4. Food Stamps
  5. Meet Devyni
Personal Favorites
*Orlando Teen Mom Event! - My absolute MOST FAVORITE post! I plan on doing A LOT MORE OF THESE! 
  1. Confidence is Killer  & How to Love
  2. Those Princesses are Going DOWWN
  3. How Broadway Saved My Boobs
  4. First Meltdown of the Year  - Struggles
  5. Why Worry - Took me some time to get to this point and I still struggle however, I'm glad I made this step!
THANK YOU SO MUCH TO ALL OF YOU THAT READ, FOLLOW, RECOMMEND and have followed me on this wonderful one year of life and blogging!! It is because all of you that the blog reached OVER 10,000 VIEWS in LESS THAN A YEARS TIME! 
I look forward to blogging and helping more and more teen moms!

Oh yeah! My blogiversary is also my BIRTHDAY! 

Friday, April 13, 2012

We Made The New York Daily News

The other day I received an email from a staff writer at the New York Daily News

Ms. Dillon was writing an article about the wonderful news released by the CDC stating that the rate of Teenage pregnancy has DROPPED DRAMATICALLY in the last year! She was wondering what I felt were some of the reasons behind the decline. Below is an excerpt from the Daily News. 

Sunday, April 8, 2012

First Hair-Cut

Leilani got her first hair cut EVER!

I did it myself and I couldn't believe that my big girl was getting a hair cut.

She loves it,  I'm glad she does.

Two days until her 6th birthday and I can't believe that time has flown by so quick! My little girl is getting so big and I have to stop typing before I start crying :')

Wednesday, April 4, 2012


March was time management month and to be honest I kind of failed at my own theme. If anything I felt like I was more all over the place than shlould be.

Currently I am working, getting more involved in campus clubs, running for undergrad student government, writing articles, (trying to) have more of a social life, trying to plan Leilani's birthday, trying to be the best mom I can be, focusing a lot more on turning Teen Mom NYC into a full up and running non-profit and oh yeah school.

My time is split in multiple directions and to be honest I think I'm doing a good job at handling it all. However, I know I can be doing A LOT better.

I feel I'm not giving the most important commitment in my life enough attention: Leilani. I still read her bedtime stories and we still eat dinner together every night however I know I should and can be doing more. That's why I am going to start stopping myself!
I need to train myself to be able to identify when enough work is enough and when I need to just be still, enjoy my time and my time with Leilani.

I did a guest post for yums and in that post I stated that I don't want to be the parent that works so hard that when they achieve their goals they don't even know their child. I need to get back to that!

Although I'm not going crazy with all of my commitments I've forgotten about the practices that I used to keep me grounded and centered. I realized that although some of my ways to manage my time aren't the best, whatever I'm doing now is no better. Scheduling time for Leilani and I sounds bad but it maybe necessary and if I practice it long enough it will, once again, become a habit and not a to do list task.

Although I didn't become an efficient time managing machine like I wanted to be somehow in a strange back handed way I learned my theme.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Meet Ashtyn

Ashtyn Scott is 20 years old, has a 13-month-old son and is married to his father. She is the admin of one of the most liked Facebook pages for Teen Moms,  Teen Mommies :]. Her favorite color is pink, she loves to be with her son and enjoys cooking!

What did you think about Teen Moms before you became one and why? 
Before I became a teen mother I always figured it could never happen to me! But it did. I think some teen parents don't take care of their children as they should, but a lot of my friends are teen moms and they're some amazing mothers. 

Were you using birth control while you were sexually active?
I was on the birth control pill when I got pregnant and while being sexually active. 

How did you find out you were pregnant?
My breasts hurt really bad, so I told my boyfriend (husband now) that he needed to get a test. I took the first test at Wal-Mart while I was at work, and then took 5 more when I got home. All were positive. 

When you found out what were you first emotions and who were the first people you told?
I started crying when I found out and just worried what my parents would say. I worried if I'd be a good mom or not, I never ever considered any alternative other than keeping my child.

When people-in general- learned about your pregnancy how did that change your relationship with them. How did it make you feel?
A lot of people were shocked to know I was pregnant. My mother was really shocked but supportive; my mother in law was also supportive. I kind of fell apart from my friends, but it doesn’t bother me like it used to. 

Briefly describe your pregnancy.
I found out I was pregnant when I was 2 weeks along. I gained 31 pounds the whole pregnancy and gave birth on my due date, which was also my husband and my two year anniversary via c-section. 

That' too cute! Briefly describe what life was like right after the birth of your child.
After my son was born life was very hard. He was a great baby but it's hard to adjust to no sleep and to learn to think of another little person before you.

Were you able to finish school? Are you currently furthering your education?
I was finished with high school when I became pregnant. I am currently in college hoping to get into nursing school this Fall. I hope to become a Registered Nurse in a few years.

What do you feel is the common misconception about teen moms?
I think a lot of people think being a teen mom is a bad thing, that all depends on how you perceive yourself being a teen mother. I think I'm a great mom. It's not easy having a child at a young age, but it is what you make it.

You are a part of a Facebook page that has over 1,000 likes for Teen Moms how did you become a part of it?
I liked the page Teen Mommies :] after I became a teen mother. They were in need of an admin, I thought it would be fun and they gave me the job! I have been an admin for a little over a year.

What is life like now?
Life now, is still tough. I got married to my son’s father in August 2011 and now I work hard at being a stay at home mother and full time college student. It's very hard but very rewarding being able to watch my son grow and learn.

What do you feel is needed to reduce the number of Teenage pregnancies?
I think teens need to be more aware at how easy it is to become pregnant. Don't think that you won't get pregnant, I thought that and it happened to me!

What do you feel Teen Moms need the most of to make a healthy future for them and their children?
Teen moms need support. That's the main reason I'm doing so well. My mom watches my son while I'm in school and my husband helps me around the house when he isn't working or in school himself. He was 21 when I got pregnant at 18 with Braden. He is older, but we still struggle some. Without the support from our family and friends, we wouldn't be able to have and accomplish all that we have!