Friday, July 18, 2014

Weight Gain and Crop Tops

It is no surprise I have gained weight recently. I've gone through what I call second puberty and too much stress within the last 4 months, both of these things combined resulted in weight gain for me.

For those of you who do not know second puberty is basically going through puberty again after your initial preteen/teen puberty stage. My hips, butt, thighs, and breast have all gotten bigger. None of my pants fit anymore, the little dance I do to get my jeans over my thighs no longer works, and up until last week I could not remember the last time I tried on jeans and they actually fit. 

As I cleaned out my closet I realized that my H &M business casual slacks with the zipper on the side that have accompanied me to many visits in Washington, D.C. and conferences have no chance in hell of ever getting past my knees again. 

Then school and life came at me super fast (and strangely enough slowly at the same time) the beginning part of this year.
I was in my final semester of college, on the verge of failing, found out I would not be really graduating, Leilani was yet again having problems with her terrible school and coming home with panic attacks, I had no time to eat between traveling, homework, parenting, and trying to sleep so I started putting on weight. 

At first I freaked out. I kept telling myself I HAVE TO WORK OUT! I HAVE TO SO I WONT BE FAT (again)

But I really and truly did not have the energy to work out in large part because I wasn't really eating enough food and because I was mostly running on no sleep and too many cups of coffee (which my caffeine sensitive body can not deal with). If I had any extra time to work out it would (and did go) to me completing a school assignment, playing Guess Who? with Leilani, or sleeping. 

Between second puberty, life stress, and slowly reintroducing eggs and fish into my diet I gained weight. 

Then I woke up one morning and told myself who gives a DAMN!? Yes,  I need to work out, not to be skinny but to be healthy. There is no logical reason as to why, at the age of 24 with no real medical health problems my joints should be hurting and going up the stairs leaves me without breath. 

But as far as working out so I can be skinny, I really don't give a damn. 

My butt and hips are big, thats just what it is and to be honest I've always liked my butt so I'm not about to run on a treadmill for hours to lose it, my boobs have been through the ringer for my age so I am happily welcoming some growth there too, and as far as people who say "well what about men, won't you start dating soon?" I don't want to date a shallow minded guy who is more worried about my pant size than I am. 

So I say it loudly and proudly,  I will not be apologizing for my weight gain with my words or my clothes. This is the summer of bikinis and crop tops! 

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Summer Travels!

This summer Leilani and I will be living out one of our biggest dreams and goals we have together, TRAVELING!!

I saved up money for SO long to be able to travel with her after graduation. 
We have always wanted to travel but I really felt that I owed it to her since she stayed in the terrible school she was in for several years, endured less than perfect babysitters, and heard "Not now I have homework" or "Sorry no bed time story tonight mommy really has to work on this assignment." She has been so patient, with me loving me unconditionally the whole time, and always being there to keep me on track (even though she didn't know that's what she was doing) so I had to reward her and I had to reward myself! 

Being a student parent from 15 years old to 24 years old was not easy so it warranted a big reward. 

This summer's travel plans will be: 

Miami was a me trip. I went for a friend's birthday weekend and had a blast and was able to finally get into the ocean!
Next up (where we currently are)
Being that we use to live here and she's been to the theme parks several times there will be no theme parks this time around. Just good ol' fashion hanging out.

Heeeeeyyy, we going to Calaaaayyyee (Cali) 
I am SO excited for California!
We will fly into San Diego, possibly stay a night in Los Angeles, road trip to San Francisco and Sacramento with my little sister and be on the beach most of the time in San Diego!
After California we will go to my home country, mi patria, the Dominican Republic! 

All of this is possible because of the family I can't give Leilani (and saving money for so long!) Having family and friends who are like family all over the country is a great gift and a huge money saver when traveling. 

It may not be backpacking across the continent of Africa like she wanted to do, but it's what we can do and what we look forward to doing this summer! 
I will take lots of pictures and upload them as often as I can however, I have to admit I am really looking forward to also enjoying the time and being present in each place with and with our electronics. 

Be sure to like Teen Mom NYC on Facebook and follow me on Instagram and Twitter to keep up with us while we travel! 

Long live the summer! 

Monday, July 14, 2014

A Young Mother's D.R.E.A.M scholarship in NYC


If you know of any HS Senior (entering their Senior year this Fall) that would be a candidate for the scholarship program POSSE, please please send an email to! Today is the FINAL day for submissions Great opportunity for a full 4-year college scholarship... Please share & recommend! Thank you

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Friday, July 11, 2014

Life After College Ramblings

Life after college is... a lot. 

I feel accomplished, scared, relieved, worried, and scared all at once. (Did I say scared twice?) 

I don't have a full time job yet. 
My writing took a hit first because of school and then because of my emotions so I felt completely lost for a while. A writer feeling like they can't write is like feeling like you can't breathe. 

Now that I finished my last last class of undergrad... I'm really done. 

The other day I was asked by someone what do you do? I kind of freaked out a bit. My go to answer is was "I'm a full time student" usually followed with a smile, genuine or forced depending on how I felt about school at the time, but now... I'm just me. 

Don't get me wrong I think just me is amazing. 
I love just me. 
It seems for like the first time in my life I can hear my thoughts a bit more clearly, me coming into myself is becoming less work (still work but it doesn't seem so damn hard anymore), I'm more confident in my abilities, and overall I'm very excited. 

School and college specifically was such a large part of my life and having it not there is weird... 

For now I'm enjoying my time. Looking for a full time. 
Allowing my creativity to speak to me. 


Thursday, July 3, 2014

8 Lies We Need to Stop Spreading About Teen Pregnancy via Mic

A few weeks ago I was contacted by a fellow writer and friend who writes for Mic (previously known as Policy Mic) 

She was writing and article about the lies society needs to stop telling about teenage pregnancy and wanted to know how I felt about the specific lie that teenage parents are 'tarnished goods.' Part of my answer is, 
"The truth is that teen mothers are just like many other new mothers. Parenting is novel and challenging, but they too want their children to lead great lives.
"We are contributing members of society," Malone, 24, said. "Maya Angelou was a teen mom. The MVP of the NBA is a child of a teen mom. LeBron James was a teen dad. Our president is the son of a teen mom. The idea that we are tarnished goods is simply not true."

Some other seven lies include, teenage pregnancy rates are going up, young love is not real, and many more. Click here to read the full article and what teen moms from around the country have to say about these lies. 

What do you think is the biggest lie about teenage parents? Tell me below in the comments. 

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

HONY Teen Mom Picture

I was having a bad day on Monday until I saw this picture on Humans of New York and it brightened my day. I did something I RARELY ever do and commented. The follow up comments are awesome and are a reminder that their are awesome people in the world.

Post by Humans of New York.